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Asking your match out on a date |
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If you get to meet in person , for a first date let the lady choose when and where, if she gives you the choice, make sure you meet in a safe clean place, to make her feel very comfortable. Make sure you are not late, and on the way do pick up some flowers, all women appreciate this sweet gesture.
Your first date should consist of entertainment, followed by a meal, then a walk if the weather permits. The entertainment usually defaults to a movie, though a live performance, a play or a concert, makes for a richer experience. There is no need to spend a lot of money in an expensive restaurant. A simple meal in an "atmospheric" neighborhood cafe, this will do just fine. Then the walk home, the time for quiet reflection and expressing feelings by glances and occasional words, this tops off a satisfying evening.
As you walk with her, by her side, matching your step to hers, in harmony, she has the opportunity to take your hand... if she is so moved. Holding hands comes naturally, if it comes at all. Do not force unwanted attentions on her! "Making a move on her" is neither required of you, nor desirable. She will touch you if she has been touched by your presence. If she wants to be touched, she will touch you.
While the conversation is on, relax and enjoy yourself. Let the woman talk about herself... ask encouraging, but not intrusive questions. Let her charm you. Show respect and interest. Listen attentively and be responsive. Give her your full attention. Be totally there for her. Try to participate without monopolizing the conversation, and speak of things other than yourself. You need not force the pace, let it flow. Feel under no pressure to "accomplish" anything, and likewise refrain from pressuring the fair lady. Nurture the conversation and cultivate the person. |
Asking your match out on a date 
